Friday, June 28, 2019

2019 Goals Check In

With June quickly coming to a close I thought it was the perfect time for a 2019 goals checkin! To be 100% honest and transparent I just had to go back and look at my original goals post to see what my goals for 2019 even are. Needless to say the goals aren't going great.


1. Save $3600 - This is the only goal I vaguely remembered and that's probably because I knew I wasn't doing well with it. In my defense the big picture for this goal was to be able to buy a house next year, but since we did that this year it's not really such a priority anymore. I do need to be better about saving and I plan to make it more of a priority this last half of 2019. The house is pretty much furnished so hopefully there aren't any more large purchases in the near future.

2. Read 12 books - If you remember this is one goal I set in 2018 that I successfully completed, unfortunately it's not going as well this year. Life has been crazy this year and by the time my head hits the pillow I'm exhausted and ready to pass out, so reading before bed hasn't been happening as much as it should. I usually get home before the fiancé so I've started reading for at least 30 minutes right after I get home, if I keep it up all year I should have no problem getting back on track for this goal. I really love reading and I think doing it more will help relax me.

3. Feel confident in photos - This goal was about losing weight and getting healthy. I really thought my wedding would inspire me to drop some weight, but sadly that hasn't happened. I do however think this goal has been somewhat successful though. I came to the realization that if the thought of being in a wedding dress couldn't inspire me to get skinny than probably nothing could and that's okay. I do still want to lose the weight I gained since moving to Dallas, but because I know I'll feel healthier, not because I'll look better. I recently bought an under desk exercise bike after hearing how many calories a coworker burns with his, so I'm excited to see if I can get the same results. We're also trying to eat out less and cook healthier foods at home.

4. Get involved in Dallas - I've sorta done this, but not all the way. I did join my local sorority alumni group, but I haven't been super active. Most of the events were on Thursday evenings which was the same night I had a church commitment that took priority. The group doesn't really have events during the summer, but I plan on trying to be more involved once they start back in the fall and I no longer have that Thursday night commitment.


Did you make 2019 goals? How are you doing with them?

Wednesday, June 26, 2019

Wedding Wednesday - The most important thing I learned in Marriage Prep Class

Back in February the fiancé and I spent a Saturday participating in the marriage prep class at our church. They do them twice a year and you have to attend one if you plan to get married at the church. Admittedly I was hesitant about going because I just didn't know what I could learn that I didn't already know. But when it was over I was so glad we attended and so glad we didn't put it off until the summer class.

The day was broken into different topics with two couples switching off to lead the discussions. We talked about money, sex, and family values, and all the important things you need to be on the same page about before saying "I do." While all the topics were informative and important my favorite activity was about love languages.


If you don't know, love languages are essentially how we process the emotion of love. Everyone is different so why would we all express such an important emotion the same way. I've heard about love languages for a while, but honestly didn't know too much about them. The 5 love languages are:
1. Acts of Service
2. Gifts
3. Words of Affirmation
4. Touch
5. Quality Time

We each took a quick quiz to determine our love language and I wasn't surprised that I scored close to perfect in Acts of Service. If you've spent any time around me you'll know this is 100% me; I absolutely believe that actions speak louder than any words. But I was surprised to discover my fiancé's love language is Words of Affirmation. I really thought he was going to Gifts because he always wants to buy me nice things. They explained that you can actually have two love languages, one for receiving and one for giving, but that specific test was designed for receiving.

Since taking this class and learning each other's love languages I feel like our relationship has been even stronger. I've made a point of verbalizing my love and appreciation for him and he's made a point of doing little things to make life easier. This knowledge about each other is such an important tool to help our relationship always be strong. I don't know any stats on it, but I feel like the majority of relationships that don't work are because someone doesn't feel loved, but that's probably because both partners don't have the same love language and are expressing love differently.

If you're in a relationship I highly suggest you take the quiz to learn your own love language!


Monday, June 17, 2019

a weekend in San Antonio

Last winter the fiancé and I took a long weekend trip down to San Antonio, so needless to say this post was a long time coming. I'm not a "things" person so I suggested the idea of a weekend trip instead of large Christmas gifts, and because he loves me more than presents he agreed! San Antonio is about a 4 hour drive south of Dallas; it's kinda long but overall pretty easy.

Before we made it to San Antonio we had to stop at the famous Czech Stop in West, Texas for some kolachies! I had never heard of kolachies until I moved to Dallas and let me tell you that is a darn shame! The meat kind are essentially pigs in a blanket and the fruit ones pastries, but they're better than what those descriptions imply. After loading up a bag of our treats we hit the road again!


We stayed at the Courtyard San Antonio Riverwalk which was the perfect "home" for our weekend. It's right on the famous Riverwalk, but tucked around a quiet corner so you're out of the loud crowds but still right in the action. We were able to take a back door out of the lobby and be right on the Riverwalk allowing us to walk to all the fun! The room was basic, but perfect for what we needed. We booked a package that included valet parking, which I highly suggest if you have a car because parking alone is not cheap.

The first evening we went to Mass across the street at St. Mary, which is a beautiful church. When I picture a Catholic church this is exactly what I picture; high ceilings, stained glass windows and beautiful art. It was fun to go to a beautiful church like this because my fiancé had never been inside one like this.


The next day we visited the Alamo! This was the main thing we wanted to see, but honestly I was a little nervous because I've heard mixed reviews from people who've visited. This was seriously so fun and entertaining and something I'd 100% recommend to everyone! To just visit the Alamo is free or you can pay a small fee for an audio ($7) or guided ($15) tour. We opted for the guided tour and honestly that is a must if you visit. Our tour guide had a degree in history and you could tell she was not only knowledgable about the Alamo but really passionate about it. We essentially walked in a wide rectangle in front of the Alamo and learned all about the history of not only the battle of the Alamo, but the whole of San Antonio. Then we entered the Alamo and learned more about the history of the actual building. This is where our guided tour ended, but there are also a few museum type exhibits with artifacts to view. The whole thing was extremely educational, especially for a new Texan!

That evening we enjoyed one of the river cruises to take in the River Walk. We decided to do it at night because the River Walk was decked out in Christmas lights so we thought it'd be more romantic, which it was, but it was also a little chilly; I'd suggest bringing an extra jacket if you do it at night. This tour guide had the usual corny jokes, but also had some fun facts to share and places to point out. Did you know they shot scene from Miss Congeniality on the River Walk!?


This was the perfect weekend getaway! If we go again I'd like to explore the Briscoe Museum and visit some of the other Missions. Other long weekend trips I hope to make include Austin, Waco, and Oklahoma City! We're doing a lot of travel this year so I don't know we'll get to do anymore of these long weekend trips, but now that we're in Dallas for good I have no doubt we'll eventually get to them all.